Five Things a Woman Needs to Hear to Fall in Love
Published by Becky in Advice, Happiness, Love, Marriage, RelationshipsWe’ve all heard the saying before: “Men fall in love with their eyes, and women with their ears.” I know this was definitely true in our relationship. When Matt and I were dating, he was the sweet-talking king, but I knew he meant every word he said. And it worked! I fell totally in love with him, and now we’ve been married over a year. But now that we’re married, it doesn’t mean the nice words should come to an end. If all you guys out there are trying to make your woman fall head-over-heels for you again, read on!
The five phrases a woman needs to hear often:
I think you’re beautiful. It doesn’t matter how high a woman’s self-esteem is, these words are needed and desired by every woman in a committed relationship. Just because you said it when you were first dating, or on your wedding day, doesn’t give you a free pass to never say it again. I find that the longer I am married to Matt, the more I want to hear him tell me I’m beautiful. It builds confidence and lets me know that he still finds me to be attractive. A sure sign that you are not saying this phrase enough is if your girlfriend or wife continually asks, “Do you think I look fat?” or something to that effect. In many cases, I believe that women who ask the question are really asking, “Do you think I’m beautiful?” Our culture teaches us that looks mean a lot, and reassurance from our man that he likes the way we look means volumes to us. So trust me guys, this one will never get old to us. So say it!
I’m listening. It seems like guys have a hard time with this one. Blame it on the wiring of their brains, or whatever, but it is hard to grab a guys full attention in a lot of cases. If men really want to knock a woman’s socks off, just listen! Turn off the radio or the TV when we start talking to you. Look us in the eyes. And most of all, don’t jump in with your advice one minute into the conversation. I know that my husband seems to have a solution for everything, whether I am looking for a solution or not. A lot of the time, women just want to vent a little bit. We want to know that our feelings are being heard. So don’t jump in with your advice right away, but instead listen to us.
It’s going to be alright. A reassuring word means a lot, and even more so when accompanied with a little cuddling. On days that I wish God would take me to my eternal home, Matt usually has a way of calming me down again. We women can get really emotional at times. I know there are times that I can start crying for basically no reason. And there are times that there is good reason. Those feminists out there would probably hate to hear me say this, but women want to know they’ll be taken care of. It has nothing to do with being a so-called weaker sex. It is simply a basic need, shared by all people, men and women alike. So if your spouse is going through a tough time, give them a big hug and tell them everything will be alright. And believe it or not, we’ll believe you.
What can I do to help? Such a statement says a lot about your relationship with your partner. If a man is asking you about what he can help you with, you can rest assured he sees you as an equal partner and knows you shouldn’t be the one doing everything on your own. It means a lot to me when Matt is willing to ask if he can help me with anything. He realizes we are both equally busy with life, and I can’t keep up with the housework as easily on my own versus tackling the chore together. This statement doesn’t only apply to housework either. If you are going through a tough time, a good man will not only notice, but will care enough to ask what he can do about it. That’s when the tendency of men to be problem-solvers comes in handy. Men that are willing to put themselves at our disposal will find a fond place in our hearts.
I love you. Okay guys, if you haven’t gotten this one down already, good luck! Don’t just assume that we know that you love us. Sure, it is important to show love through your actions, but hearing it from your lips makes it complete. If these words are said sincerely, they will never get old to us.
I hope this advice, coming from a wife myself, will help all you men out there know what you should be saying often to remind the women in your lives of your love and commitment. If you want more ideas on how to keep your ladies happy, I suggest you read Matt’s post on How to Keep Your Relationship Healthy With Your Wife.
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What about the other way around for a change ?
Patschef
I think it is hard to come up with five things a man “needs to hear.” Women need to hear things and feel loved. Men are visual.
Feel free to reply and give me some of your thoughts! I would love to hear a few from your perspective.
Matt
Thank you for posting this. It’s helpful to have a woman’s point of view- always.
What Happens When You Are Found Out Cheating With Two Girls In Your Office By Your Business Partner? But your excuse is ….. But We’ve been separated from the bedroom for atleast 6 months and we separated almost 3 months ago….
But what if you are in a temporary long distance relationship? By temporary, I mean of course we’ll see each other soon. But what can you do to keep that relationship alive until oyu do finally get back together…?
Babylon-
Do you mean you will be a part for a year or more? Communication. Do small things that work well over the phone/email/mail. I used to mail Becky hand written letter in college and I would put a shot of cologne on it. She liked it.
Keep it fun and exciting! Send her/him flowers. Hope this help a bit.
What if I feel in love with my boyfriend and he has never complemented me????
Hannah,
That is a tough one. Some guys are macho and don’t like to complement you. Does he say he loves you? Love has to be both ways. One-sided love can get old. Press him to talk about your relationship with each other. Some guys just need to be smacked upside the head. Maybe he feels that it is just plain old known by you and he doesn’t have to work about it.
I hope the love is both ways. Hope this helps. Talk about this stuff with him. Hope this helps.
hi, my wife was caught by me, cheating on me about 18 months ago. we tried to work things out and we are still together, but since all of this has happend, ive not touched her, and not because ive not wanted to but because she does not want to have sex. I know people will think that she is still involved with another man , but she just does not have any kind of sev drive. when she was having the affair she was on speed, and it was like that for a long time , even with us. I have not touched her in 15 months, should I leave the marrage, weve been together for 28 years, we get along ok but nothing like we used to. we used to be best friends
but now she confides in another friend of hers. we were broke up for about 6 months and during that time I started seeing another woman, my wife decided to come back and me and the other woman have still remained friends, nothing more. my wife told me that I needed to get rid of her if we were going to make it. well I did tell her and she does not call, but me and the wife are not nothing like we were. Im going crazy without sex, I just need someone who is not partial to tell me what they would do. The guy she was having the affair with was my best friend, and we all have sit down and cleared the air. But, he is still around, I got rid of the woman I was seeing, we both still see the guy she was with, he is back with his wife. Im lost and dont know what to do about this whole ordeal.
Rick,
It sounds like you are facing a really tough situation in your marriage. I wish I had the perfect answer for you, but the best thing I can recommend is trying to go to a marriage counselor together, or maybe talking with a pastor or another type of professional who deals with this type of situation. I hope all the best for you and your wife. Please stop by the site again sometime.
A very cool blog. Well relationships are as unique as humans themselves still there can be some basic things that can be potrayed over and over. Even I am in pursuit of the logic of relations. check my website’s relationships column if interested.
Thanks for the posting. It’s very informational…
My husband Rick and I’ve been married for 10 years & had 3 kids together. Things have been going down the hills for me the past year. I wasn’t happy with him anymore but i really want to work things out. RIck and i work different shift and barely see each other. He’s always gone hunting during the fall and was never home with me. I was tired of his mother telling us how to live our life or what to do and tired of his family bragging about his ex-wife all the time. I just don’t have anymore patience…
SO last year when i got transferred to a different department at my workplace, i fell in love with one of the co-worker that i’ve always had a crush on since i started working there. I just want something more. SOmeone who can spent quality times with me. SOmeone to love me and be there for me when i need him most.
I still love RIck but my heart belongs to the man at work now. I’m torn between 2 men right now and I don’t know what to do…
any advise???
Morgan,
I am a very strong believer in marriage. You and your husband made a lifelong commitment to each other on your wedding day. “For better OR worse” comes to mind. Although your relationship may be facing some really tough times right now, stay commited. Talk with him about how you are feeling. Remember your history together and keep your three kids in mind. You said that you still love your husband. That is a great start! Stay faithful to him!
Also, keep in mind that Matt and I are not marriage counselors. We constructed this website based on our own experiences. I would suggest that you go to a marriage counselor or pastor for help in your relationship. I wish the best for you and your family!
My wife and I have been married for 23 years. She has brought to my attention that I have been treating her badly and that she has been compaining to me about this our whole marriage. Lately I have been fighting bouts of depression and don’t know why. I realize my wife is right but don’t know how to fix the problem. I work quite a bit and when I had a night off I invited her to go out with me in which she never gve me an answer and couple days later decided to go meet people in another state that she had met on the internet. This has alienated me to a point that makes me not want to try, but I do love my wife. Seems like she has moved on with a new direction in her life that has no time in it for me. I try to talk to her and it seems like I am competing with e pc she is always on. Is there any hope to to get my wife back?
Ed,
It must be very difficult for you right now, but I applaude you for doing your part and putting the necessary effort into saving your marriage. As far as your wife not reciprocating that effort at this point, I wouldn’t give up just yet. You said that you still love her. 1 Corinthians 13 in the Bible is known as the love chapter. A few key verses stick out to me when I think of your situation: “Love is patient…It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perserveres…Love never fails.” Those are strong words! If you truly love your wife, even though it seems she is not responding to your efforts, continue to be patient, hopeful, and perservere. You know that you are doing your best to hold up your end of the deal. Although you cannot decide for your wife, continually showing your love and support isn’t going to hurt the situation at all. And it sounds like you are doing a good job of that already. As I have commented to previous people, I am a strong believer in marriage and staying committed. Also, I am not a professional on this either, just another person experiencing the adventure of marriage. Maybe you and your wife should consider getting some counseling by a professional or maybe a pastor. Don’t give up! We wish you the best, and God bless.
Thanks for the kind words Becky. My wife and I have been talking countless hours about our problems and now that we have pointed out to one another our dislikes things seem to be working out better. She has explained to me that she has found something she really likes doing and not to take it as though she no longer loves me. I had pointed out to her how hurt I have been that she would rather go meet up with total strangers than spend a rare night out with me. Don’t get me wrong, things are far from perfect. I still have quite a bit of hurt inside but also understand she needs someting away from me and the kids.
yes, I agree with your post. Though, I could add that woman also needs to listen also that we’ll always be near her. and, yes, they love with their ears
5 Things Guys Need to Hear to Fall in Love
1) I love sex.
2) I love dressing sexy all the time.
3) You are handsome and hot and I want you and need you.
4) I love you.
5) I love sports.
weman they just need to learn how to love a man. that’s why so many man cheat on there wife’s are turn to being bi or gay. behind there wife’s back. just check out the gay sites. and see for your self. on how many married men cheat on there wife with other men.
I am in love with a girl next door.I have proposed to her five months ago.She said she likes me.
The thing is I can’t understand her.I don’t understand what she expects from me.Sometimes
she laughs at me,sometimes she scolds me,makes fun of me.She once said that she feels good
if our relationship were cut.She also does’t come out withme,blah,blah,blah.What do the women want?Money?Cars?Credit Cards?I’am very desperate. Plz help.
i want to create friendship with awoman at any age
Hehe, I especially like that one:
- I’m listening.
It’s not that hard to say “I’m listening”, it’s harder to make her believe in it. And even more harder to actually LISTEN.