Comments on: Sharing Your Deepest Secrets with Your Spouse http://www.brauchtalk.com/sharing-your-deepest-secrets-with-your-spouse/ Marriage, Faith, and Technology... Let's Talk! Thu, 28 Aug 2008 23:09:32 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.5.1 By: Judy@ChildCentral http://www.brauchtalk.com/sharing-your-deepest-secrets-with-your-spouse/#comment-12790 Judy@ChildCentral Tue, 15 Jul 2008 07:09:29 +0000 http://www.brauchtalk.com/sharing-your-deepest-secrets-with-your-spouse/#comment-12790 Thanks for sharing info about this book. I can identify with those fear of rejection if i were to tell my deepest secret to my spouse. I know well that we love each other but its not easy to risk having an undesirable outcome if i were to tell it plainly. I am not for "sugar coating" the truth as this would mean lying abt the truth. Perhaps i really need to read this book to sort out my thoughts. Thanks for sharing info about this book. I can identify with those fear of rejection if i were to tell my deepest secret to my spouse. I know well that we love each other but its not easy to risk having an undesirable outcome if i were to tell it plainly. I am not for “sugar coating” the truth as this would mean lying abt the truth. Perhaps i really need to read this book to sort out my thoughts.

]]> By: becky http://www.brauchtalk.com/sharing-your-deepest-secrets-with-your-spouse/#comment-12017 becky Tue, 13 May 2008 12:14:33 +0000 http://www.brauchtalk.com/sharing-your-deepest-secrets-with-your-spouse/#comment-12017 The book is called "What Husbands and Wives Aren't Telling Each Other" by Steve Chapman. The book is called “What Husbands and Wives Aren’t Telling Each Other” by Steve Chapman.

]]> By: Aaron http://www.brauchtalk.com/sharing-your-deepest-secrets-with-your-spouse/#comment-11986 Aaron Sun, 11 May 2008 01:28:05 +0000 http://www.brauchtalk.com/sharing-your-deepest-secrets-with-your-spouse/#comment-11986 Would you happen to remember the name of that book you read? I think I need a copy of it. Would you happen to remember the name of that book you read? I think I need a copy of it.

]]> By: Pastor Scott http://www.brauchtalk.com/sharing-your-deepest-secrets-with-your-spouse/#comment-11859 Pastor Scott Wed, 30 Apr 2008 19:38:14 +0000 http://www.brauchtalk.com/sharing-your-deepest-secrets-with-your-spouse/#comment-11859 One of the most memorable and personal blog posts I have seen in a long time. Thank you for your bravery! I am another husband who shares the exact scenario that you shared - a wife sexually abused by a family member. She first told me about it 10 years ago (3 years married at the time). The reality is that this hurt is something that never goes away. Sure, the Lord brings healing and forgiveness, but there are always scars. Sharing our secrets with our spouse can bring some of that healing, but I have found that was only the beginning of the path. There will always be issues of protecting your children and your sibling's children. Confronting lies with truth. Protecting your wife (for me). Letting her fight her battles. There are many other issues. At various times we have sought out Christian counselors and I would highly encourage anyone to seek counseling to sort through the issues. Also, your post points out a calling that will always be upon you: to be a "wounded healer." Your experience gives you a great ministry to others. My prayers are with you... Pastor Scott One of the most memorable and personal blog posts I have seen in a long time. Thank you for your bravery!

I am another husband who shares the exact scenario that you shared - a wife sexually abused by a family member. She first told me about it 10 years ago (3 years married at the time).

The reality is that this hurt is something that never goes away. Sure, the Lord brings healing and forgiveness, but there are always scars. Sharing our secrets with our spouse can bring some of that healing, but I have found that was only the beginning of the path. There will always be issues of protecting your children and your sibling’s children. Confronting lies with truth. Protecting your wife (for me). Letting her fight her battles. There are many other issues. At various times we have sought out Christian counselors and I would highly encourage anyone to seek counseling to sort through the issues.

Also, your post points out a calling that will always be upon you: to be a “wounded healer.” Your experience gives you a great ministry to others.

My prayers are with you…

Pastor Scott

]]> By: pete @ biblemoneymatters http://www.brauchtalk.com/sharing-your-deepest-secrets-with-your-spouse/#comment-11420 pete @ biblemoneymatters Mon, 25 Feb 2008 18:35:31 +0000 http://www.brauchtalk.com/sharing-your-deepest-secrets-with-your-spouse/#comment-11420 thanks for sharing, very touching.. i had a similar situation, and it is very nice to be able to share something so hard with the one you love most. thanks for sharing, very touching.. i had a similar situation, and it is very nice to be able to share something so hard with the one you love most.

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