You wife loves it when you help out with household chores. She would be totally surprised if you did some things for her that she never would suspect you to do. Your relationship would be healthier and the two of you would be extremely happy with each other. The neat thing about this is that she will do nice things for you as well. Blessing her will help her to bless you.
Relationships are give and take and a lot of men take all they can get. We can drain our wives of their emotions and life if you do not give back and love them with good deeds around the house. You will be amazed at how much your wife will love you back when you do nice things for her.
I must add a disclaimer that you shouldn’t do anything on this list that you can’t do without breaking or wrecking something. I understand that it is the thought that counts, but do not ruin her favorite pair of jeans because you washed them with a brand new red shirt.
Here are a few things you could do to bless your wife:
- Hand wash the dishes.
- Clean the bathroom without her knowing you did.
- Wash all the laminate and hardwood floors by hand with a bucket of water and a rag.
- Make the bed for her while she is in the shower getting ready for work or just the day.
- Water the garden/flowers for her before she gets out of bed.
- Leave her a note on the bathroom mirror that she deserves a back rub when you get home. It will make her happy all day.
- Wash the laundry for her instead of having her do it. Please sort the whites and colors though.
- Vacuum the whole house as if your life depended on it. Vacuum everywhere that the vacuum and hose can reach.
- Make her a nice little lunch for her to take to work. Slip a few chocolates in there also.
- Tell her that you want to have a picnic with her.
- The final thought for this short list is to ask your wife what she would like you to do for her. You may find out some things that will bless her and it will make your relationship healthier.
This is not a whole and complete list. There are so many things that we can do for our wife that will make your relationship healthier and that will keep the relationship going strong.
Please feel free to add some more ideas in the comments. I am interested in why the readers have to say. Tell us about the little things you do for your wife that make your relationship strong and more fun.
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I have recently drove my wife to a breaking point. As a man, I have been so selfish of my time and now, had to hit rock bottom to realize the importance of helping. There are other problems in our relationship, such as the issue of me and relapses of alchoholism, but by not showing appreciation, by far is the worst I have done. Helping your wife, shows appreciation, and if your wife shows appreciation, she will appreciate you. I warn you that if you do not show true compassion, and appreciation, you will end up at rock bottom, living in torment, totally hopeless, not knowing if you can fix your marriage. Trust me, you do not want to be there. Also, you need to be a role model for your children so that they know how marriage should work, so that when they are married, they also will not screw up. I can tell you this, because I was raised by grandparents that never once showed me how to have a loving marriage. Now they are divorced, I have been divorced once, and close to another. Thankfully I have a wife who loves me alot, because I have screwed up alot. Do these things because you love your wife, anddo it to be a role model. Your wife will love you for it, and on top of just saying that you are a good husband, she will also say that you are a good father. I am starting a book or two, lol, soon, God willing about this, and one as well about my life with alchohol and the impact it has had with my family. If anyone is interested in talking with me about these issues please e-mail me at bradmaggard@yahoo.com which is also my yahoo messenger ID. I have alot of insight and advice to these situations, and as part of my self discovery I want to help. By doing the things I have done for my wife in the past week, she is seeing a sincere change, and I have developed a strong love for my wife, and she is growing to trust me again. Thanks.
Reading your post had a all too familiar ring to it with the exception of children. The rest is on track. I am trying to repair the damage that I have done through the abuse of alcohol. I nearly lost my wife (not 100% sure yet it not too late) from unintended abuse due to alcohol. By abuse I mean emotionally and mentally but most of all verbally. I drank so much that I blacked out and did and said things I do not remember. I have been in AA for 6 weeks and it has helped knowing there are a lot of other people out there in the same boat. I asked my wife to go to marriage counseling with me and we have been going for several weeks. It is helping.
The elephant in the room is over the years of my drunken stupor, at least this year my wife had an affair that I found out about on my own. I cannot think of a time or instance in my life where I have been in so much pain. I know it is my fault, mostly, but none the less still painful. I did not know how close I came to losing her, until I found out she had already been in contact with a lawyer, and had gotten an application for an apartment. It has not been an easy couple of months and it will not get easy fast enough. We both have some serious trust issues on both sides as you can imagine. Any insight or advice you could share would be greatly appreciated.
Sincerely Jason Neely
It’s WAY too late. Cut your loss and learn from it. Hopefully there aren’t any children involved. Your wife already has the taste of a different cock in her mouth, cunt, and asshole and probably LOVED it.
There is no way to sugar coat it… move on. She certainly has!
Jason…
Back it up, take a left or right turn and move on man. It’s never good to be negative about things but once you’ve found a way to open a door, you should have probably not have opened, it is certain that you will do it again if you are given the chance… What I mean is that you would have to be perfect in order to not have her slip again, and we both know that this is impossible. Its best to let go and maybe with time you will find each other again, which is what I hope for you.
Just keep it moving man, and keep your head up!
If you can learn to believe that a woman is not like you. You will be the man she never does not want to be with. This man is the same as Jesus Christ who truly sacrificed every day and every moment for humanity…
Without this you will never truly understand your role as a sacrificial servant. But all this can never be done unless you are born again to a living hope so you can truly present her to God as a holy a pure undefiled bride…
God bless you in your journey.
Whoever this alfred guy is, sounds like his ole lady has already screwed him over and now he wants everyone else to live in the same pain that he is living in. if you want it to work, don’t ever give up. there is a book at walmart called The Love Dare. this book is a 40 day process in which you work slowly but surely at fixing your relationship. if you are not a reader, then watch the movie “Fireproof”, it will show you how to improve your relationship. i am going through a rough patch with my wife and it really sucks because i am in iraq. but we are working everything out.
All these suggestions are trite and suggest you live in a household where only women do these things daily. Backrubs and chocolate? – Those are nice things but hardly original are stereotypical solutions my grandfather would think up – to the point where most modern women hardly think of these things as favors, but as things you should normally do anyway – and rightfully so. You might as well have suggested giving them a handmade “ticket” entitling them to one night you’ll do whatever she asks or that you promise to take her out to a dinner and a movie. Again, nice things, though hardly original and certainly nothing any normal man wouldn’t have already thought of.
what if you have dne so much without her asking from day one after marriage. what i mean is that you wash dishes, wash the clothes, cook for her, clean the house, scrub the bathroom, and ask her all the time what she wants you to do for her … ie everythign on your list….and there is still tension between you two what is the problem there…..
Keep on working on it. Keep on loving her. There has to be a give and take in every relationship. Read His Needs, Her Needs: Building an Affair-Proof Marriage
We loved it!
Jason and anyone else that this applies to,
I have read both His Needs, Her Needs and The Love Dare and both are really good books to get your marriage back on track. However, these books won’t mean anything to you if your heart isn’t in it. Take a look at your life and pray like you have never prayed before. You cannot truly love your wife if you don’t love God. Love isn’t manufactured in us. It comes from God and the love Jesus showed us by giving up His life.
Recently, I almost lost my wife and daughter because of some bad decisions I was making. I also had a almost nonexistent relationship with God because of the sin in my life. Instead of focusing on repairing my marriage, I focused on my relationship with God. Through this, my wife was able to see that my heart was in the right place and she gave me a second chance. We now enjoy each other more that we ever had before and our marriage is so much stronger.
Remember, you entered a covenant with your wife, not a contract. God will give you the strength to honor this covenant, if you ask Him.
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WOW,,,good for you men! As a woman who has been married for 30 years….it is so much more than cleaning….it is about true compassion, a relationship with Jesus and no alcohol in a marriage. Eye contact and talking openly and laughing are vital in a long lasting marriage. God bless
What God has joined together let man not seperate.
My wife has moved out just over a month ago.
She has already started seeing another man. But by the will of God
I’m still holding on. I have hope when theres no hope. There are several
Scriptures in the Bible to help you out. But if you don’t
truely give your life to Christ. You are heading down the wrong
path. The lips of an adulteress drips honey, her speech is smoother than oil.
But in the end she is bitter as gall. God has all the anwsers your looking
for. Plus in the time of crisis He is near. Good chances are our situation was
brought on by God. To bring you closer to Him. Remember this GOD HATES
DIVORCE and Satan is out to destroy marriages. So Husbands give your
Life to Jesus because he bought you with his blood. Also husbands do not divorce
Your wives. If you have faith in Jesus he will bring you through this.
He will give you victory. But do not dwell on the things that are wrong
With your wife. Dwell on the things that are wrong With you. And ask God
To fix this problems. Get counseling as well. Christian counseling ! Keep your faith up.
Faith hope love the greatest is love trust in the one who forged you And your wife together.
Nick – God gave us free will for a reason. You can’t let religion run every aspect of your life. God doesn’t influence situations, our personality does which is fed by free will. Satan doesn’t destroy marriages, people that aren’t ready to marry do.
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This is sooo great…
I am soooo happy… i am only 23 years old and got married to my sweetheart.
Point 10) Don’t only tell her. Actually taker her for a picnic.
Point 11) I agree with most points, but not with that one. And I’m telling you that as a woman. Never ask your wife anything like that. Take her, guide her, lead her. Even if you do things that are only 5 or 6 on her ranking, she will still appreciate it more than a 10 she asked for. Asking your wife questions should always be more about what creates a deeper bond between you and what demonstrates attention without coming off as needy. There is this neat little ebook I once found. If it is still up there you can find it for free on http://www.husbandsmagic.com
Very good guide, you can get not any that fit this description on Romania. God bless you in your journey.