KissingA kiss means a lot. It is the action that marks the beginning of a romantic relationship. A kiss is what seals the vows exchanged on a wedding day. A kiss can say hello, goodbye, give comfort, or be romantic, just to name a few. In other words, kissing is always appropriate with that special person in your life. Coming from a woman’s perspective, kissing is essential to feel connected to our mate. I also feel it is one of the things that often gets overlooked as to how important it really is for women, and men, in a relationship.

M was the first guy I had ever kissed. We had dated about a month before we kissed for the first time, and although I was scared out of my mind, I was ready. I had gotten to know M well, and I trusted him. Trust is a big issue when it comes to kissing. You are allowing someone to come within your personal space which communicates a message to the person. Most people don’t just let anyone into their personal space, and by kissing someone, it tells them that you feel a special closeness to them. Although I had never kissed a guy before M, I did have the opportunity to. I was with a group of school friends, and I got to talking with a certain guy from school. We talked for a while and realized everyone else was gone. When I started leaving to meet up with the rest of the group, he pulled me in with his arms and tried to kiss me. I was completely startled and pulled away from him. I hardly knew the guy, and talking with him for about an hour was not enough time for me to trust him enough to kiss him. So like I said before, kissing conveys trust between two people.

Once the first kiss was introduced in our relationship, M and I would often find ourselves spending most of our time together doing just that. It was new and exciting to us, and it let me know that he was still interested in being with me. Although kissing all the time eventually wears off in a relationship, it is still a way to provide reassurance that you still want to be with the other person. I’m sorry to have to admit it, but girls like to be reassured about a lot of things. And here is the easy part guys; kissing allows you to reassure our importance to you without having to express it with words. Of course, words are important too, but kissing is a great way to start. Feel free to read more about what women want to hear.

After M and I had been married a few months, I can distinctly remember a time when some young married women from my church were asking me about how married life was treating me. It was during this conversation that one of them asked me a question that shocked me. Do you guys still kiss? I couldn’t believe why someone would ask such an absurd question, until all the women started laughing and informed me that after you are married for a while, you don’t kiss anymore. I wouldn’t have believed it except that all of them were agreeing. Is this possibly true for the rest of you out there reading this? Does kissing stop after being married for a while?

If so, I am scared for where my relationship is heading. Kissing, and not just a peck on the cheek, is something that I need to have a healthy relationship with my husband. We actually just had this conversation last night. It is so important for he and I to kiss, and for it to not exactly lead to anything else. A long and meaningful kiss from M makes me feel as if I mean the world to him. It is a time when I have his full focus and attention in a sweet and romantic way. Let me emphasize again the importance of kissing sometimes just for the sake of kissing. Guys get a bad break when it comes to kissing just to initiate the beginning of other intimate things. I’m telling all you guys out there, just have a big kissing session with your wife sometime, and don’t take it any further. It will blow her away. I know it does me. So from now on, don’t underestimate the importance of kissing.