Things Women Want to Hear
Published by Matt in Advice, Happiness, Marriage, RelationshipsThere are some things that women want to hear. I know a few things that my wife wants to hear from me and I think they can be pretty universal for all women. I guess these will pertain to married couples but I am sure that some of them can cross over to the dating life. Relationships benefit greatly when the right things are said to one another.
Becky wants to hear me say “I love you.” I think all women in a serious relationship need and want to hear this often. I know it is very important to say it in marriage. Don’t just say it once a day because you feel you need to say it. That will water the phrase down and make it less meaningful. Love is a key word in marriage and in serious relationships. It is nothing to play around with. Men, you have to mean it every time and want to say it. You may need to do some serious soul searching and reflection if you don’t feel like saying it to your wife.
Becky likes it when I serenade her with a song. This is a funny want that maybe only Becky wants to hear. She loves it when I make up a song about her or about us that I make up as I go. We laugh and giggle throughout the song. I may take the tune of Amazing Grace and run with that beat and let the thoughts and words flow. We love to have fun together and I feel that is the key. Try it sometime. Make up a funny love song and drop it on your wife when she is least expecting it. I used to do it a lot and I know she misses it and I will do it again.
I like to call Becky my Wife. When I introduce her, I say “This is my wife, Becky.” Most of you reading this are saying “Well duh…” right now. This isn’t my point. I know Becky would love to have me say it like this, “This is my bride, Becky.” It sounds so neat and elegant. I like to call her “My beautiful babe!” Women need to be reassured that you are still crazy for them even if you don’t always show it out on your sleeves. Men tend to hold emotion inside and protect it. Women wear it on there sleeves, necks, shoes, and so on. They live and breathe emotions. I am going to try and start saying “This is my bride Becky.” You could add the words wonderful, beautiful, awesome, loving …etc in the phrase. Men that aren’t married could replace the word bride with girlfriend. Introducing your wife/significant other to somebody like this will make her feel loved and know that you truly believe in what you say.
Women want to hear a simple phrase of “thank you.” Your wife does a lot around the house and she needs to feel like it is all good and that it means something to you. I love it when Becky irons my shirts. It means a lot to me. She does a great job! I always try and say thank you to her. Saying thank you tells your wife that you appreciate them and care for them. Becky does so much around the house and it makes me feel so good. Why wouldn’t I want to make her feel good by thanking her? I think men also need to help their wives with chores around the house. I will save that for another post on another day. Bless you wife often and you will find that she will want to bless you back. The blessings become circular it will grow your relationship.
The bottom line is that communication is the key to a strong relationship! Ask your wife what she needs to hear more often from you. Tell her what you need to hear more often from her. Communication is a two-way street. You will find that your love will grow for each other as you both do and say little things that mean the world to each other. What things does your wife want to hear from you? Share them in the comments so we all can learn and get ideas.
This is very true. My boyfriend of three years is the one guy who has never once said anything he like’s about my looks. I dunno if it’s because his father was like that or what? I am a very atractive woman, and I do get asked out on a daily basis. So sometime’s I am comfused on why he doesnt say anything to me. I am almost at the break down point. Some of the things you have metioned make a good point. Now how do I train my man to complement me???? HELP
3 years huh? It could just be that he was brought up like that. My Father was pretty vocal and open. Men tend to hold their emotions in close. Emotions can make some men feel weak. I would think that he would say you are beautiful or good look’n. Have you ever thought about hinting and almost outright asking? Does he know that it would be much appreciated if he did day something? Some men may feel that it is weird to state the obvious.
How is the relationship otherwise? Are you and him happy together? 3 years seems link a long “dating” stage. Any marriage talk? Be open with him about your feelings and emotions. It bugs me when Becky assumes I know how she feels or that I know what she is going through. Tell me! Make it easy on him.
I hope this helps. Feel free to comment some more if you want.
I have been with my boyfriend since I was 21. (4 years now) I have learned a lot through our relationship! I like when he stops me in the middle of what I’m doing and holds me tight and talks sweetly to me. He has sang to me in the past too. The singing was very flattering! I liked it!
To hear she is beautiful
how smart she is
or how good she is at something
how she is #1 in your life
Ask her about her day and let her talk (we like to talk!)
Of course it always depends on the situation, people…
I never thought about the watering down of I Love you. We have used it everyday. I think it does water the meaning down. The number one thing I’ve learned from our relationship is you’ve both got to have God in your lives and it makes life so wonderful.
3 Responses Women Want to Hear
1. I respect your feelings (even if you don’t entirely agree). This pours water on the fire of an argument, but isn’t passive. But, say it & mean it!
2. You’re important to me. Not just as a wife, homemaker, sex partner, mother. Let her know that her deepest desires for herself are important to you. If she likes to workout or is an avid reader or artist, build in time for her to recharge her soul by doing what makes her who she is. That is the woman you fell in love with.
3. Let me get that, honey. We women are such natural nurturers that we make it look easy. But, we often don’t get nurtured in return. I don’t mean showered with gifts or patronized…nurtured. Find out what makes her feel cared for and do it. She willingly cooks, washes your clothes, shops & takes care of the kids and home so you don’t have to. Take responsibility for something & actually follow through. Empty, unfulfilled promises will only get you in the dog house.
now the reason your boyfriend of 3 years may not compliment you on your looks may be because he is more comfortable with know that he is attracted to you for your personality. Looks in a relationship is not the glue holding it together but its a bonus point and if he does not compliment your looks dont feel offended or insulted but maybe ask him if he find you attractive, as you said you are asked out frequently. Being asked out frequently shows that other people do find you attractive but your boyfriend has you so he problaby is not worried by this. But overall do not worry about what he thinks of your looks it what he feels for you that matter, is that not the important thing in a meaningful relationship ?