BrauchTalk

Some people think that they don’t need to be happy 100% of the time to have a good relationship. Some say, “As long as I am happy a little bit.” Some people think that marriage makes things better. “It will be way better once we get married!” I am here to tell you that it doesn’t work that way.

I know some of you will say that “it worked just fine for us”! It is true; some people make it work and go on to be happily married for the rest of their lives. I have heard where people make it in some of these above relationships. I have heard the total opposite for a large number of married couples and there are stats to prove it. They think that jumping into marriage will make life better and make their relationship better. It tends to make it worse.

The dating stage in life is a “puppy-love” stage. We have all been there and if you haven’t you will someday. You are on cloud 9 and flying high on “love” and “happiness.” I was there. Your significant other could do no wrong. You could do no wrong in their eyes. Life is good. Time flies by so fast. You may progress through your relationship and think that all is good and nothing could go wrong.

B and I had an awesome relationship throughout our dating, engaged, and now married years. We did go through that stage of puppy-love and all seemed perfect. Of course we had a few minor bumps in the road. No relationship is perfect! The key thing is to learn from issues and conflicts and grow your relationship into a strong and unbreakable bond. Talk about your wishes and wants that you each want in the relationship. Don’t go on in your relationship with someone if your ideals or morals don’t match. Don’t “think” that your significant other wants the same things you do in life. You need to discuss these things in great detail to find out if you match up and that the relationship will grow in the same direction. Some people make it work. Continue reading ‘Why Does a Good Relationship Mer?’

Before M and I were married, I made it clear to him I wasn’t interested in having children. It’s not that I don’t like kids, but that I don’t like the thought of myself having them. M, on the other hand, loves the idea of having kids someday. He must have had faith in me that my view on being childless would someday change, because he married me anyways. And it wasn’t until a little puggat named Roogy stepped into our lives that my mind started to change…just a little bit.

On M and I’s first anniversary, one month ago, we brought home a new addition to our family. We have talked about getting a puppy for a while, but we never seriously started looking until we one day stumbled across a puppy that made our hearts melt. We fell in love with puggats the first time we were ever introduced to one in a pet store. Puggats are a cross-breed between a pug and a rat terrier, a so-called designer dog. We had never even heard of such a mix before. As soon as I saw the wrinkly face, with a stubby nose, and the curly tail, I was ready to pay the $550 right then and there and bring the littly guy home with us. M too loved the look, but wasn’t ready to drop that much money on an impulse. Continue reading ‘A Puggat Changes Everything’

It’s one of the most exciting times of your life: planning your wedding. But somewhere between deciding on the ceremony location and the number of guests, you soon find that you and your fiancé have some pretty different ideas of how you want your wedding to be. One of you wants to elope to Bermuda, and the other wants an elaborate church wedding. While these extreme views may seem like a road leading to disaster, I’m here to tell you that with just a little compromising from both sides can leave you with one of the most memorable weddings ever. The perfect mix of the untraditional with the traditional will have you and your new spouse off to a great start. The key is compromise.

I know from experience what it is like to try planning a wedding with someone who has different ideas than you. When M and I were planning our wedding, less than two years ago, we both had different visions for it. I had more of a “I don’t care if I break the rules” attitude, while M was more traditionally minded. However, the main thing we held common ground in was we both agreed we wanted our wedding to be fun. We were able to compromise and add some untraditional spice to a beautifully traditional wedding.

First of all, find out how involved your partner is going to be in planning the wedding. Do they want to be right by your side picking out everything, or is there just one specific aspect they are interested in? Sometimes guys may not want to be involved in planning because it is looked upon as being the woman’s day. But the more you are able to plan together, the more you can make the day enjoyable for both sides, as it should be! I was lucky enough to have a man that did care about our wedding, sometimes more than I did. Planning the wedding day together is a way to make sure both your personalities are able to shine through. Continue reading ‘How to Plan An Untraditional, Traditional Wedding’